Prepared by
Beth Reames, PhD, LDN, RD,


Diane Linder, EdD, LDN, RD
and


Donna Montgomery, MS

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Many parents become concerned that something is wrong with a child who doesn't eat as much as a toddler as she did as an infant.


Feeding Your Preschool Child with Love and Understanding

It may be a challenge to feed a toddler.  To a toddler, manipulating you is a way to show newfound independence.  You are responsible for what toddlers are given to eat and when and where they eat.  The toddlers are responsible for how much, if anything, is eaten.

Another aspect of feeding toddlers that makes it a challenge is that they have erratic eating habits.  They often have strange food preferences.  Or, when you feel sure you know their favorite foods, they won't even touch what had been a favorite.  Also, they usually eat only small amounts at a time, but they always seem to want snacks.

A child's growth rate is slower between one and five years of age than it was in the great growth spurt during infancy.  Many parents become concerned that something is wrong with a child who doesn't eat as much as a toddler as she did as an infant.  The decrease in appetite and less interest in food are caused by the normal slower growth rate of a toddler.  Between three and five years of age, a child probably will not gain more than four pounds a year.  While growth is slowing, a child is shifting from large motor to fine motor activity.  Many basic feeding skills can be mastered during this period.

One-to Two-Year-Olds

A child this age is a finicky eater and has food jags.  A toddler holds food in the mouth without swallowing and also has an unpredictable appetite.   He may eat every two to three hours.  Two-year-olds can use big arm muscles to scrub, tear, break, snap and dip. 

What you can do:

1.  Encourage your child to feed itself.   Plan for spills and accidents.  By two, most children have learned to use a spoon and a cup to feed themselves.

2.  Adapt a chair in a way that the child can reach the table.  Have a foot rest!

3.  Use unbreakable dishes and small utensils.

4.  Serve foods at room temperature.

5.  Serve foods that are easy to chew, have interesting shapes and have bright colors.  Children like to pick up food with their own hands and chew on it.

6.  Serve separate foods, not mixtures.

7.  Use chopped, home-prepared foods for ease and save money, instead of buying junior baby foods.

8.  Pour drinks into a cup that is wide at the bottom.  Children have good control of a cup.  They can lift, drink, set it down and hold with one hand.

9.  Do not feed children under five years old round foods such as hot dogs, candy, nuts and grapes.  One child under five chokes to death every five days.  Young children can easily choke on these round foods.

Three-Year-Olds

As a child develops better hand and finger control, fewer spills and accidents will occur.  Three-year-old children have better appetites than two-year-olds.  However, they also have times when they are not hungry.  They eat most foods except certain vegetables.  They dawdle over food when not hungry, and they comment on how foods are served.

Three-Year-Olds Can:

1.  Use a spoon in semi-adult fashion; may spear with a fork.

2.  Pour milk and juice and serve individual portions from a serving dish if given instruction.

3.  Can wrap, mix, spread and shake because of the development of medium hand muscles.

4. Eat independently, especially if hungry.

Four-Year-Olds

Four-and five-year-old children like to help in the kitchen.  Let them mix or stir ingredients, make sandwiches or clean fruits and vegetables.   Children like to eat foods they have helped to prepare.  With four-year-olds, eating and talking get in the way; they prefer to talk!  They have strong likes and dislikes.

Four-Year-Olds Can:

1.  Use all eating utensils

2.  Help with meal preparation by wiping, washing, setting table, pouring measured ingredients.

3.  Peel, spread, cut, roll and mash foods; crack eggs because of the development of small finger muscles.

Five-Year-Olds

Five year olds like familiar foods and they prefer most vegetables raw.   They notice food dislikes of family members and declare these as their own.   It's important for family members and others to practice healthy eating habits.

Five Year Olds Can:

1.  Make a simple breakfast and lunch.

2.  Measure, cut, grind and grate because of fine coordination in fingers and hands.

3.  Preschoolers' appetites and the amount of food they eat change from day to day.  Forcing a child to eat will make mealtime an unhappy experience for everyone.  Pleasant mealtimes have a positive effect on the eating habits of children.

Tips For Feeding Young Children

1.  Schedule regular meals and snacks for toddlers since they require frequent feeding to ensure adequate intake of calories and nutrients.

2.  Always try to offer at least one food the child likes.

3.  Remain calm if the child leaves an entire meal untouched.

4.  Do not be concerned about short food jags, stretches of time when the child wants the same food over and over.  If this behavior continues for a long period and eliminates entire food groups, consult your pediatrician.

5.  Teach and reinforce good table manners.

6.  Allow the child to eat slowly.

7.  Offer healthy food in a relaxed manner, and children will eat what they need.

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